The night my husband proposed to me was awesome; it was perfect for us. After we were officially engaged, we sat around the campfire looking up at the stars, holding hands and daydreaming about our life together. After a minute or two I whispered in his ear, “Just because I am going to become your wife doesn’t mean I want to stop being your girlfriend.” And I meant it. When we are 90 years old, I still want that flirty, fun, can’t-wait-to-get-a-hold-of-you feeling between us. We’ve agreed that we are going to be the dirty old couple in the nursing home…so, you all have been warned.
My husband and I have that, “I love you more, no I love you more” thing. I know, I know…we’re newlyweds. Sue us. But it helps us keep “it” alive. We also hold hands, grab at each other as we pass in the hallway, send random and somewhat naughty texts, and whisper sweet nothings the others’ ear. You know, typical stuff. I found a Blog post that I thought was pretty cool. It’s titled 16 Ways to Flirt with Your Husband. Here are some of my favorite suggestions:
- Kiss in the car at stoplights: That never gets old. And don’t forget at least one 15 second kiss a day!
- Have a secret code or phrase: Want to tell him you think he’s hot? Try a secret code phrase, like “Are we due for an oil change?” No one else will know what you really mean but him, so you can say it in front of the kids, in front of your parents, in front of anybody!
- Ask your husband to choose your panties for the day: If he chooses them, he’ll be picturing you in nothing but them–all day, advises Paul Byerley, The Generous Husband.
The Blog post also cautions, “Now, a few ground rules. When you flirt, you’re telling your husband, ‘I’m interested. I find you attractive. I want you.’ So if you do start adding flirting into your relationship, you’re going to have to make sure you add some sex in there, too, or else your guy is going to be getting very mixed messages (and he’ll be very frustrated).” Good advice, if you ask me.
So, here’s my question: What are some ways you and your spouse keep that boyfriend/girlfriend feeling alive? Please use the comment section below to join the conversation!
Have a great day!