Flirty Girl

The night my husband proposed to me was awesome; it was perfect for us.  After we were officially engaged, we sat around the campfire looking up at the stars, holding hands and daydreaming about our life together.  After a minute or two I whispered in his ear, “Just because I am going to become your wife doesn’t mean I want to stop being your girlfriend.”  And I meant it.  When we are 90 years old, I still want that flirty, fun, can’t-wait-to-get-a-hold-of-you feeling between us.  We’ve agreed that we are going to be the dirty old couple in the nursing home…so, you all have been warned.

My husband and I have that, “I love you more, no I love you more” thing.  I know, I know…we’re newlyweds.  Sue us.  But it helps us keep “it” alive.  We also hold hands, grab at each other as we pass in the hallway, send random and somewhat naughty texts, and whisper sweet nothings the others’ ear.  You know, typical stuff.  I found a Blog post that I thought was pretty cool.  It’s titled 16 Ways to Flirt with Your HusbandHere are some of my favorite suggestions:

  • Kiss in the car at stoplights: That never gets old. And don’t forget at least one 15 second kiss a day!
  • Have a secret code or phrase: Want to tell him you think he’s hot? Try a secret code phrase, like “Are we due for an oil change?” No one else will know what you really mean but him, so you can say it in front of the kids, in front of your parents, in front of anybody!
  • Ask your husband to choose your panties for the day: If he chooses them, he’ll be picturing you in nothing but them–all day, advises Paul Byerley, The Generous Husband.

The Blog post also cautions, “Now, a few ground rules. When you flirt, you’re telling your husband, ‘I’m interested. I find you attractive. I want you.’ So if you do start adding flirting into your relationship, you’re going to have to make sure you add some sex in there, too, or else your guy is going to be getting very mixed messages (and he’ll be very frustrated).”  Good advice, if you ask me.

So, here’s my question:  What are some ways you and your spouse keep that boyfriend/girlfriend feeling alive?  Please use the comment section below to join the conversation!

Have a great day!



The Birth of CSTs

CST…a Christian sex talk.

Say what?!  Christians don’t have sex…okay, the don’t have good sex, right?


**giggle, snort, snicker**

So, so wrong…

My friends and I started having CSTs about eight yearsImage ago.  It began one evening by accident in Life Group, aka Bible study.  We normally would have co-ed Bible study, but this particular week the boys when upstairs and the girls stayed downstairs.  My friend, let’s call her Margaret, just had a baby and after our lesson, we started chatting like girls do.

Soon, we were talking about S – E – X (oh my!).

This was kind of taboo in our church, especially for leaders in the church, which most of us were.  Our pastor had said many times that sex stuff between husbands and wives should stay between husbands and wives.   So, we never talked about it.  Until that one night…

The guys soon came down from their (very holy, I’m sure) Bible study to find us giggling like a bunch of pre-teen girls who just put their friends’ bra in the freezer.  And it was great.  It was healthy!  It wasn’t naughty or nasty or perverted.  It was helpful and very, very freeing.

ImageI am a Christian and I believe sex in marriage is a gift from God.  It is made solely for our pleasure.  God could have created a million different ways for us to procreate; He didn’t have to give us sex.  But he did.  And I am oh-so thankful!  (And, I might add, so is my husband!)

So, I don’t agree that Christians should excuse themselves from the sex conversation!  We should be part of it!  We should be (considerate and careful but ultimately) talking about the good and the bad parts of sex and marriage.  So, what do you think?  Wanna have a CST??  **wink, wink**

Send me a topic or question.  I’ll pose it on your behalf while keeping your confidentiality, if you so wish.  Email me at and put CST in the subject line, or just use the comment section!